Always a Bridesmaid, Ever the wiser!

July 21, 2010

This past weekend I was blessed with the wonderful opportunity of taking part in a beautiful union (of the matrimonial variety) of two wonderful college friends of mine. I was honored to be chosen as a bridesmaid, and was overjoyed to be a part of the wedding party! It was a fantastic time, and one weekend to remember forever.  While I was all the while wishing Nieubreed could have done the cinematography and photography for this charming Iowa wedding, I had a wond’rous time.

Now, this was my second wedding I have been a bridesmaid in and I really think I’m getting quite good at it. I’ve even caught a bouquet or two in my day, so feel free to call me a pro. As a seasoned professional (haha), I thought it would be best to provide some tips I would give to bridesmaids. Neither of the brides really prepared me for these experiences, and I really wish someone would have given me some tips before my first one. Feel free to steal these tips and pass them on to your bridal party, they aren’t copyrighted…yet.

  • Bring a back up pair of shoes.  This is for a majority of reasons including: You deciding last minute that the vertically challenged man you’re walking down the aisle with would prefer you not tower over him like an amazon warrior–in that case bring flats or shorter shoes! Or, perhaps you realize that blisters are beginning to form caused by your spankin’ new peeptoe Manolo Blahnik stilettos (or in my case, Target’s…times are hard!)–in that case bring a more comfortable pair to wear for the reception so you can get your groove on. Additionally, if it’s an outdoor wedding and the soil has been softened by recent precipitation and you don’t want to sink down with every step wedges or flats are an excellent option! There is nothing fun or attractive about getting stuck on your way down the aisle with your escort.
  • If it’s an outdoor wedding, wear and bring: Sunblock and BUG SPRAY! No one will care if you reek of spf and Off! because they’ll all be jealous of your healthy non crispy and bite-free supple skin. I swear Mosquitoes have an affinity for weddings, they were in full attendance this weekend (they didn’t even RSVP! rude.) If you are really concerned about the bug spray and sunblock smell, look for unscented kinds. Also, Vanilla is a natural and sweet-smelling insect repellent. Goodbye Bath and Body Work’s bug friendly scents, hello Vanilla Extract! Trust me, it works and still smells great.
  • Don’t bring that guy that you just started dating to the wedding. If you have a plus one as a bridesmaid or groomsman, let it be a friend that already knows other people at the wedding or a significant other you’ve been with for a while. There’s no one I feel more sorry for than the poor strangers that agreed to have their second date at the wedding their woman or man is in. They look bored/sad/pitiful/lonely the entire time because you’re doing wedding party things like pictures, eating first, and having a good time with the bride and groom while they’re sitting with a fake smile pretending to have fun in a room full of strangers. It’s cruel, really.
  • Eat before. You’ll smile more. You’ll thank me later.
  • Bring Ibuprofen. There were at least 4 people last week that asked me if I had any last weekend, as wedding days are long and sometimes stressful.
  • Keep hydrated, especially if it’s an outdoor wedding. One of the bridesmaids last weekend became extremely ill because it was scorching hot and she wasn’t drinking enough water. Poor gal, she didn’t get to enjoy the reception!
  • Don’t get drunk. You know your limits, maintain them! I know this seems extremely obvious, but there has been someone in the wedding party at almost every wedding that I’ve been to that has been completely tanked during their toast at the reception…and it looks sad. Save that for nutty Uncle Hank who never quite got off his feet, or Crazy Aunt Hattie with all the cats.
  • Don’t forget to HAVE FUN!

Image Courtesy of the groom's fabulous parents! I'm the "tan" one...


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